No matter what has happened, always behave as if nothing had happened. - Arnold Bennett
When things go wrong, don't go with them. - Anon.
Do not lose your inward peace for anything whatsoever, even if your whole world seems upset. - Saint Francis de Sales
Selfishness is hard. It is the best possible choice for an individual but it takes resolve, focus, and a desire to feel good above all else.
Look at what just happened over the past few days in Norway. Look at what is going on in Washington D.C. It would be incredibly easy to emotionally slide down the rabbit hole with the flood of human emotion, doing what is almost automatic and expeditious. The mass expects it. We expect it.
Can one do what is unexpected? Can one choose to stay conscious and choose to focus elsewhere when the entire society is pointing fingers, sobbing tears, taking sides, screaming etc.?
The answer is "Yes." But...
Is it easy?
The answer is "No."
At times, it is the hardest thing to do. This happens especially when you are concerned with the "good opinion of other people." The quotes that I chose to open this short piece with jumped out at me and highlighted what I am feeling from within, from my heart.
I am a passionate person. I care deeply about many things. The biggest question that I have to both ask and answer honestly is, do I care enough about myself to make the choices that feel right for me? These are the choices that at first, do not come easy.
These decisions matter... literally. They manifest into the substance and story of one's life. The wisest among us have said life is basically a "feedback loop." It shows us where we are vibrating. It is absolutely true, no deviation.
To look where one stands now takes courage because it is one's responsibility. All of it.
The good news is that in this fresh, new moment, one is able to respond anew, choosing to choose again. It doesn't end until the cover closes on this particular life story.
Am I selfish enough to choose what feels best, not give away my inner peace? I ask this now to tilt my life, my choice, in that direction. This is the best that I can now do. It is enough.