Sunday, June 19, 2011

Trust30; day 20: Speak Less

What I must do is all that concerns me, not what the people think. This rule, equally arduous in actual and in intellectual life, may serve for the whole distinction between greatness and meanness. It is the harder, because you will always find those who think they know what is your duty better than you know I. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

I once received a fortune cookie that read: “Speak less of your plans, you’ll get more done.” What’s one project that you’ve been sitting on and thinking about but haven’t made progress on? What’s stopping you? What would happen if you actually went for it and did it?

One of the greatest gifts that my love and I give to each other is this; when we find ourselves having attracted a high degree of stress and anxiety, when things seem to be spinning out of control in the moment and we are feeling bad, we acknowledge that we have been blessed in this:

It's always happening to only one of us, not the other at the time.

Thus the one who is feeling stable can invite the other back to a better feeling place with some "check-in" questions:

  • Have you remembered to meditate?
  • What is your wisdom telling you? Can you hear it?
  • Can you remember the truth right now? (Everything always works out, and usually better than we can imagine, if we let it.)

This is the greatest role that we serve for each other. I consider it the true basis of our relationship, why we attracted each other into our lives when we did over eleven years ago, challenges and all.

The silence... meditating... hearing the "still, small voice" that is always present if we but listen.

You and I "need" no one, nothing (no-thing) in this world. Years ago when I studied A Course In Miracles, the lesson that sent me and my ego reeling was "I need do nothing." If you search on that quote plus ACIM, you will find many pages of results. I will share with you my present take on it.

I wrote yesterday that we are far more powerful than we dare dream. That power simply IS, period. It is manifest now as us, through us, for the joy of creating.

That is what it is.

It must Be what it Is.

I accept that my life story is my version of this on-going creation, which evolves into ever more choices and creation. This never changes. I need do nothing because that which "I am" is never at risk.

And yet, I get to choose anything, to focus as I please. Thus I am free to do anything in/with the power of that choice.

...which is why I began today's musing with comments about "high degrees of stress and anxiety." If we are not meditating, finding the silence, heeding our wisdom, we are choosing to take the power we are cast it to the winds.

Who you really are is never at risk. It knows. All is choice and choice is creation.

As "you," you are free to choose and attract as you desire, consciously or not.

If there is anything that is "stopping you (or I,)" it is this; we have temporarily forgotten who we really are. The "self" in the title of this writing project is capitalized; Self. I do not think this is a coincidence.

Nothing... no "thing" is stopping you or I but our "selves" (with a small "s.")

Choose to embrace the silence and hear your Wisdom. Align "self" with "Self" and the truth is made manifest:

You need do nothing. You are free to do anything.

Go and do it in joy.


  1. Great post! I agree, you are blessed! Take care.
    Peace. Nico

  2. Rich, the line: "I need do nothing because that which "I am" is never at risk." I love that. How often we seem to forget that it's true. I AM is never at risk, only our egos. That's why the EGO wants to sit behind the wheel and drive the 'car' as we go along in our lives.

    In my dark night of my soul I came to realise that what I believe in the most is the force of creation. Some call it God, infinite Wisdom or Intelligence. To me that doesn't matter, the way I look at it and perceive it is A CONSTANT CHANGING FORCE OF CREATION that just IS. And as such it is a force that resides in each "thing". We are part of it and our Self has that same presence - it is.

    Our egos are such fragile and highly reactive components to our beings, much like oxygen, and it tries to survive and create, like all things do. But the extraordinary power to be still and notice creations unfold without the urge to force anything is such a experience that I wished for every one to know and feel and be in.

    Great writing again, Rich and I am happy for you and your love :)