Nothing can bring you peace but yourself. Nothing can bring you peace but the triumph of principles. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Write down a major life goal you have yet to achieve or even begin to take action on. For each goal, write down three uncertainties (read: fears) you have relating to each goal. Break it down further, and write down three reasons for each uncertainty.When you have three reasons for your fear, you’ll be able to start processing the change because you know where the fear stems from. Now you’ll be able to make a smaller changes that push you towards your larger goal. So begins the process of “trusting yourself.”
Imagine being happy, really happy, just being yourself.
Imagine being pleased, satisfied, dare I say, joyous, at the life story you're writing, the rich tapestry you're weaving moment by moment, now... now... now.
Can't do it? Whatever reason you come up with, it hits bedrock at the level of the ultimate lie; I am not good enough.
I reiterate, it IS a lie. I am not suggesting that you can move from the darkness of that lie into the light all at once. You may have to take it in increments. It's OK, you have the rest of your life to do so. It would obviously feel much better to do quicker rather than slowly. It would definitely feel better.
And that is your choice, the same choice that we all have. Do I make the best of now, or the worst? Even if it's an awful situation, you can find someway of looking at it that moves it slightly into the light, making it "less awful."
After all, the inverse of the lie, "I am not good enough" is "I am good."
Once you start to believe that, uncertainty fades away as rapidly as fog dissipating in the sunlight.
Trust your Self.